Valentines-Day

 

5 Awesome Benefits Of Being Single On Valentine's Day

A Single's Dilemma

So here is yet another holiday designed without single people in mind.  And here you are…a single person.  What a dilemma.  Think about it, you are expected to watch couples awkwardly embrace each other publicly even though you know they were just arguing the night prior.  You are expected to endure the office surprises (that your co-workers get), the countless invasive Valentine’s Day advertisements, the movies, music, and yes…the abundance of chocolate shaped hearts.  What’s a single person to do?  In my opinion, it’s no wonder why single people loathe the concept of Valentine’s Day…it leaves you guys out and positions you to feel like there is something wrong with being single.

What if there were benefits to being single on this socially marketed often misinterpreted holiday?  What if being single during this time of the year actually worked to your benefit?  I believe life is all about perspective, and perspective determines experience.  I believe that you can actually experience contentment, happiness and entertainment that will rival the experience of your friends who are in relationships.  In this post, I will list 5 awesome benefits that singles can take advantage of during Valentine’s Day.  Let me challenge your perspective so that in doing so, you just might have the best Valentine’s Day of your life…all by yourself!

Benefits Of Being Single

1.)  You Don't Have To Deal With The Pressure Of Pleasing Someone Just Because Of One Day.  My biggest criticism of Valentine's Day is that you are almost forced to be a certain kind of way just because society tells you to. I fell into that trap before. I can recall buying a $600 bracelet for my wife even though we were heading towards potential divorce. I was being fake and I used that day to cover up the wounds that I had been causing in our relationship. Unfortunately, this tendency is the norm with people in relationships. They perform for one day of the year ignoring the fact that they should hold the door open for her every day of the year. Thankfully for you, because you are single...you don't have to deal with the pressures of following suit with the cultural festivities. You don't have to be someone that you are not. 

2.)  You Can Spend Your Money How You Choose To Spend It. Yes, this is huge. The average person will spend between $100 and $200 on this day. Then there are those (like myself) that will over indulge so that I can be ahead of the curve...like the $600 bracelet that my wife only wears about once a month...(sorry Mandy, lol). For you however, you don't have to over indulge. You don't have to pay exorbitant prices for chocolates, wait in long lines to eat at semi-expensive restaurants, pay to ship something that you can take yourself or invest in jewelry or apparel that the other person already has enough of. You can take your money, and invest it in yourself. Pay for your own spa treatment, buy yourself the gift that you will actually use or use your money to help someone who really needs it. No matter the case, it's your choice.

3.)  You Can Structure Your Time To Fit Your Needs. In relationships, Valentine's Day belongs to your partner. This may sound sweet, but it is also stressful. You literally have to structure your day around what you think would excite your partner. From the reservations to that timing of the gift presentations, you have to be detailed enough to keep the other person excited and engaged. For the single person, you can experience this day with minimal stress. You don't have to concern yourself with syncing with another person's schedule...your time is your time. No surprises, no disappointments, you know what to expect because you are managing your time. You can design your day to fit both your mood and your needs. Do you want to stay in and catch up on Netflix...or socially mingle with other single people? Your time is your time. 

4.)  You Can Flirt As You Please.  This is another good one. As I have mentioned in previous post (flirt more often), there are tremendous healthy and psychological benefits to flirting. On Valentine's Day, most couples aren't flirting with each other...they are scrambling around making sure that their activities go according to plan. They concern themselves with making their reservations on time, looking nice and wondering if they got their partner the right gift. Because you are single, you can continue to flex your flirting muscles, show that person that you are finally interested but not have to worry about the relationship related stress. You can smile at that person just a tad longer, give an extra detailed compliment or send a secret candy gram (don't act like people still don't do this) and linger in the excitement of the moment. And the best part of doing this is that you can do this with no expectations..

5.)  You Can Continue To Get To Know Yourself Without The Distractions.  To me, this is the greatest benefit of being single on Valentine's Day. In my 10 years of working with people, I have found that once you get into a relationship, although the focus should shift from you to the relationship, most people continue to focus on themselves...their needs, their past trauma and their emotional issues. As a result, the quality of the relationship suffers over time and the relationship ultimately ends. Because most people jump into relationships for the wrong reasons, they struggle with keeping the relationship for the right reasons. The most awesome benefit of being single is that you have limited distractions that can interfere with you getting to know yourself on a deeper level. Take your time to do this while you can because if you try to do this while in a relationship...well let's just say that next Valentine's Day you may be kicking yourself wishing that you were still single.

The Truth About Being Single

So there you have it.  Hopefully you allowed me to challenge your perspective of being single during one of the most stress inducing holidays of the year. It is truly not that bad depending on how you look at it.  Remember, perspective is everything.  You experience life based on how you see life.  Take advantage of the time that you have.  Focus on giving, sharing and becoming a stronger single so that when that time comes…you can celebrate Valentine’s Day every day of the year…so that your relationship is not reduced down to a commercial holiday.  If this sounds like a lot of work, don’t be discouraged, we are here to assist you along your journey.  By partnering with Single But Ready, you will have access to my Pre-Relationship coaching tool box so that you can benefit from the same tools that my clients pay me by the hour to receive…except you pay nothing.  Simply add you email to the box below and you will be part of our exclusive email list.  Sign up today…I am waiting for you!

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