What Do The Lonely Do At Christmas?


What Do The Lonely Do At Christmas?  10 Tips To A Happy Holiday

That one song...

Every year after Thanksgiving, What Do the Lonely Do at Christmas? by the Emotions begins playing on the radio, and I must confess that I can’t stand it. I roll my eyes at the strike of the first cord and continue as the singer coos: 

“Tis the season,
to be jolly…But how can I be,
when I have…no…bod…y.”

Okay, it’s really a great song, but it is a bit depressing. It stirs some emotions in me and reminds me that I am single again…..yet another year. Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with my family for the holidays, but it would be further enhanced by having a special someone in my life. Can you relate?

Well, December has rolled around again, and while still single, I refuse to let my relationship status play the scrooge. Instead of allowing myself to feel lonely this year, I’ve made up my mind to enjoy my single status. If you’re single too, check out these 10 tips to a better Christmas: 

1.) Plan a family game night.  

Whether it is UNO, Guesstures, Guitar Hero or Spades, they are all great options that will help you spend some quality time with your family.   

2.) Make plans with friends.

Take the opportunity to catch up with old friends. Invite one to lunch, or plan a ladies or guy’s night out.  

3.) Take a trip.

A couple of years ago, my friends and I met up in New Orleans for a quick get-away after Christmas. If alone time is what you need, go solo. 

4.) Go on a "friendly" date

Chances are that you aren’t the only single person home for the holidays. Look up an old friend or connect with friend that you would not normally have time to connect with.   This is not the time to be desperate however so make sure your motives are legit and make sure that the other person understands clearly the reason for you two hanging out.   

5.) Do something you've never done before.

Are you adventurous? Go zip lining. Spending Christmas in a cold climate? Go skiing? What have you been thinking about doing but just haven’t gotten around to?  

6.) Volunteer.

There are an abundance of opportunities around this time of year. Ask your friends and family what they’re doing, and maybe you can join in.   

7.) Stop procrastinating.

Everyone has a project they’ve been putting off. Do you need to paint a room? Work on a business plan? Clean out a closet? Read a book? Now is the time to do it.

8.) Catch up on all the movie and TV series you've missed.

Have you seen Scandal? The Good Wife? How about Mandela or the Best Man Holiday?

9.) Attend a ball or party.

My hometown has several sorority and fraternity functions during the holidays, and many promoters throw themed parties. You might be single, but you don’t have to be lonely. Get out so that you can mingle and meet. 

10.) Go where people are.

Ladies, go to a sports bar on a good game day. There are bound to be single men there. Guys, head to the mall. Women will be out shopping in droves.

Just Remember 

Whether you try one or a few, the most important thing is to focus on the people who are already in your life and the opportunities you have to create great memories. You never know; this may be your last “lonely” Christmas, so celebrate!



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At the end of the day, holidays are best if not experienced alone but as with life, things happen.  So, while you may not be able to fully control your current circumstance, you can make the best out of what you have.  Approach this holiday season with a smile on your face and with a desire to share your joy with others.


Question:  How do you plan to take advantage of your single status this holiday season?  Comment below please.     


Angelita Streeter


Angelita Streeter



Angelita Streeter is a 36-year-old single professional from Pensacola, Florida who has resided in Central Florida since 2005. She earned her bachelor’s degree in Journalism from Florida A&M University and her Master’s in English from Florida State University. For the past 11 years, Angelita has worked in public relations and education. She also provides freelance writing and editing services. Recently Angelita expanded her repertoire to health by writing a health and fitness blog and teaching Sensual Fit, a toning class at a local dance studio.


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