6 Questions You Must Ask To Find Your Ideal Man

1st things 1st

Who’s your ideal man? Idris Elba? Channing Tatum? How about Columbus Short? Most of us have someone Hollywood-famous who has captured our attention, but how close are those men to who we typically date or desire in reality?

Before you start dating, it’s important to know what you’re looking for: what qualities can’t you be without; what are your deal breakers and, most importantly, where are you going in life. The best way to find your ideal man starts with a list. These six questions will help you to create that list--and ultimately--find your ideal man.  


1.) What's your definition of a man?

When you think of a “man,” what qualities come to mind? Most of us have someone or several males in our lives who have helped us form this definition. It could be your father, a teacher or even Heathcliff Huxtable.  

2.) How do you feel about family?

Are you the type of person who likes to be alone and avoids family gatherings, or would every weekend be a family reunion if you were given the choice? Does it matter if a man has kids, and do you want them? Don’t set yourself up for heartbreak if any of his feelings toward family are nonnegotiable for you. 

3.) Is it important to be equally yoked?

For many, religion and spirituality are core aspects of a relationship. Does your ideal man have to be the same religion? If not, are there religions to which you can’t subscribe? What are you willing to compromise on? Is conversion a possibility if he desires it? 

4.) What do you need from a man emotionally?

As human beings, we all have needs. If you are looking for a life partner, you are doing so with the expectation that he will play a role that no one else does in your life. How does a man make you feel loved?   Can you communicate to him your love language?  If not, learn more about the 5 Love Languages here.  Will he need to communicate his feelings freely? Be romantic? Listen to your problems or try to solve them?  

5.) Does the physical aspect really matter?

While it shouldn’t be the most important aspect of a relationship, it is a factor. The majority of us won’t end up with fitness models, but we do need to find our man attractive. Are there any physical features that won’t work? Does he have to be a certain height, be fit or be of the same race? How important is sexual compatibility?  

6.) Where are you going in life?

As a couple, you have to be going in similar directions and want the same things long term to ensure success in your relationship. If he is working toward a career in politics, and you are repulsed by the thought of being in the spotlight and suffer from social anxiety, he’s likely not your guy.  


Know you 1st  

Before you can find your “ideal” man you have to know as much about yourself as possible so that you will know what to look for, what questions to ask and how high to raise the bar.  Because you are reading this post, you must be interested in preparing yourself for your "ideal man."  Continue your journey by subscribing below to our FREE newsletter so that you can receive tools that will greatly assist you during this process.

As you make your list, I hope that you consider the 6 questions that I provided to you above. Again, being clear on what you want is the key to finding who you want.  


Question:  So tell me in the comment section below, who inspired your idea of the ideal man?  What qualities does he possess?      


Angelita Streeter


Angelita Streeter



Angelita Streeter is a 36-year-old single professional from Pensacola, Florida who has resided in Central Florida since 2005. She earned her bachelor’s degree in Journalism from Florida A&M University and her Master’s in English from Florida State University. For the past 11 years, Angelita has worked in public relations and education. She also provides freelance writing and editing services. Recently Angelita expanded her repertoire to health by writing a health and fitness blog and teaching Sensual Fit, a toning class at a local dance studio.


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